Its a New Year today – the Tamil New Year – so let me begin with wishes to everyone.
New Years are always beginnings, and often us perspectives with which to see the world – and here are three that I have come to understand are popular:
1. Life is a race track and we are running the race: The focus is obviously on winning the race – and everyone running with us is a competitor. Only the coaches (or anyone who helps out) are well wishers – and as you can see, all relationships are strictly transactional. We don’t stop to see the beauty around us since our eyes are on the next milestone all the time – we are really never where we are – life is lived in the mindscape of the future.
And the future never comes – because no matter where we go – the winning post is always the next milestone – always! And then when we do win milestones, we often continue to feel unfulfilled – for the milestone isn’t what we imagined it to be. Its not as enduring, its not an momentous – we realise we have sold ourselves a dream into the future forgetting that dreams are never factual. The terrain has changed too – our assumption that the track (and ourselves) would be the same in the future and only our performance mattered is but weak when looked through the mirror of life.
Everything changes. Everytime.
Looked at as a race track, life offers direction but not fulfilment. Is it worth it?
2. Life as a battlefield: This is actually a variant of the above – albeit a more negative one. Everyone is not just a competitor, but an enemy – no one has your welfare in their heart and is actively working to bring you down! And so, we look to cut corners, imbibe cynicism into our daily lives, justify our rudeness to others as “just” treats. We discard values and when someone does us a good, we wonder what hidden intentions they have – our life is completely lived in the mind, and a very nervous mind at that.
Looked at as a battlefield, life hones our survival instincts and we are always on the lookout for a kill – the flip side is that we are always alone and never at peace with anyone – including ourselves.
3. Life as just another stroll in the wild: This one’s different – the focus is not on you but on the scenery – and just for that – for being out of the spotlight for once – you feel lighter. Life isn’t serious, nor for that matter do you take yourself so seriously – you become an active participant in a wonderful playground called life.
You don’t determine the scenery (and more importantly, you don’t have to – that’s someone else’s job – god/ nature whatever!) but you do enjoy the scene. No scene is more important than the other, and neither you nor the scene is judged – not on how well you appreciate, nor on any other matter. You can even ignore the scenery and no one would care!
Life becomes a purveyor of surprises now and you trade a sense of being “in control” for a state of “enchantment”. A flower here this moment blooming in the wild, may not be there in the next one – and remember since you cant hoard it – all you can do is enjoy it. A person passing by may no longer be there tomorrow – so there’s not point in pleasing him for a reward tomorrow – there is though in enjoying his company today. You realise that there is no milestone other than what you set for yourself. No rewards other than what you recognize for yourself either. Life becomes truer, simpler, easier.
Today, it is possible to pick any of these three perspectives and make them your own – and they aren’t limited by profession – its not like you need a businessman for the first, a politician for the second and a sage for the third for instance. Take these examples:
a. Larry Ellison decided to spend his time at the America boat race cancelling his keynote at his massive customer conference. This wasn’t about arrogance (at least the way I see it!), it was about living a life he cared about – the boat race just was more appealing for him that day!
b. Thimmaka, a labourer by profession and her husband remained childless 25 years into their marriage. Instead of brooding on life as a “losing” battlefield that throws bad things at them, they decided to plant banyan saplings on the highway instead – to date close to 300 saplings have been planted and blossomed under their tender care. Accolades and awards have followed – and they have been taken in the right spirit by this wonderful lady – she continues to do what she loves – planting saplings and taking good care of them.
c. James Blunt, an international singer of repute has become super popular on twitter for the way he handles folks who troll him. His tweets (if they are representative of his attitude to life) are very refreshing comebacks (he even makes digs at himself) and I’d daresay have brought him in a new set of friends. Here’s a sample:
@JamesBlunt: They’re not. They’re running me out of town. RT @Amykiiins: Why are people following James Blunt?
@JamesBlunt: Nope, you’re on your own. RT @chickenoriental: I must be 1 of only 2 who genuinely likes every @jamesblunt song. The other person being him.
And on that note, happy new year everybody and enjoy life!
After twenty years of playing IT leadership roles, I am taking some time off to read, reflect, and share thoughts on Leadership and Technology. I am specifically interested in how we can use these to further our success. You can find my work at https://nsubra.com and 2-minute daily posts at https://angulam.in